Unless you are that Scottish mum (you know the one), this is not a useful word. Maybe you’re not into someone else’s kink, fetish, or aesthetic, and that’s fine. No one is saying that you have to be into everything and everyone. The key is not to speak or act from a place of prejudice and judgement, or, to use a phrase from the kink community, not to yuck someone’s yum. This works in the other direction, too. Not every sexual experience has to be an experimental, boundary pushing, political art project. Sometimes people just want to fucking spoon, and that’s more than okay.